Denver Photographer; Expect Unpredictability

Meet Sam, mother to sweet Nora and truth-teller. We try to know what to expect as parents, but let’s face it, WE DON’T KNOW! There aren’t enough books in the world, blogs on the internet or people whispering in your year to understand the magnitude of what is coming with your first little one, but knowing it’s all going to change, day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute that is the joy and frustration of parenthood!

“It took me only a few months of motherhood to realize that one of the cardinal rules of parenting is expect unpredictability–everything changes all the time.  This can be profoundly reassuring when you are in one of those awful feedback loops, such as when your child only naps while you’re holding her, or she won’t nap at all, or she screams the entire time she is riding in the car, because it means that just when you’re at your wit’s end (or maybe beyond it), she will grow out of it.  But unfortunately it applies to the good times too.  When you’re in one of those easy(ish) phases where you’ve got a schedule and things are running fairly smoothly, don’t get too comfortable, because sooner or later the rug will be pulled out from under you.  You’ll travel and the sleep schedule will evaporate.  Your baby will start teething.  Mercury will be in retrograde.  Who knows.  What I do know is that the nice little routine we’ve got going will fly out the window and crabby will be the order of the day. It’s been sobering to realize how much this unpredictability upsets me–it might be one of my biggest challenges.  When my daughter unexpectedly skips naps or wakes up out of sorts or won’t eat anything I make, it throws off our day and puts me on edge and I’m not very good at rolling with it.  But I try.  Maybe, hopefully, this will be a skill I acquire over time.  Recalibrate, adjust, switch gears, and accept the changes in course.  Because god knows there will be more.  And because the not-knowing is also one of the most beautiful, wondrous things about parenthood.  One day it won’t be the frustration that I remember, but the surprise of each new development, each new aspect of her personality revealed. With any luck she’ll remember her mom rolling with it all.”